I have one of the original XDM 10mm with the 4.5” barrel. It is a great shooter and reliable. I can recommend them. A fun bonus is that mine feeds and shoots my .40 S&W rounds just fine

The main change, and one that is cheap, is putting Talon grip tape on the grip. 10mm recoil is robust enough that you tend to loose your good grip and have to reposition after a round or two. I used the rubberized Talon grip for the XDM but if I did it again I would use the new PRO version. It is a bit more coarse and gives better traction than the standard rubberized version. You have to decide first which size backstrap you are going with before ordering.
The second change to mine was buying an additional 22# recoil spring for use with heavy loads. I installed it and use it for all loads but you can experiment if you want to.
I did have Powder River Precision cut my slide for an optic and install their trigger. Mine was bought before optics-ready versions came out. Of course, these two mods aren’t necessary. The optic is nice for low light or night and better precision at longer ranges (think coyotes).
I have zero experience with the new XDM Elite version, but I imagine it is decent as it is basically an updated XDM.
My friend has the S&W M&P 10 and it has a great grip and good trigger and is optics cut, but although his has worked so far with only a moderate round count of normal rounds, HOWEVER, I have heard that there are a lot of problems with a whole lot of M&P 10mms so I
wouldn’t recommend them. Problems that even sending them back to S&W didn’t fix. In fact I would avoid them like the plague, especially used. I bet there are a lot of guys wanting to dump their lemons. At least 50% of them are just too iffy feeding and there has been no definitive fix.
I don’t know much about the SIG P320 X-Ten 10mm but it is one that I would seriously look at and check the reviews on.
I’ve never cared much for the blocky feel of the big Glocks like 10mm and .45. They work, especially with an upgrade to a 22# spring, but I hate the feel of them and the barrel rifling. The XDM is so much nicer.
I think anyone who seriously suggests a Hi-Point 10mm should be sentenced to carrying one for a week in the Rocky Mountains on his hip while his companions tease him occasionally by letting him handle their smaller, lighter polymer guns. An older gentleman who was looking to save money had a .45 version sent to me (I have an FFL) and said he wanted to carry it in the hills. I genuinely felt sorry for him carrying that low-capacity boat anchor around.
